Hi OBGYN.netters,

Today I bought a home, my, home; just for me! I know for some of you this doesn't sound like big news but for this gal, starting out on my own late in life this is the single, Biggest Thing, I have ever done, "Alone" in my life!

Prior to today I had always lived in either, Dad's house, Our house or Bob's house; but as of May, 1st. I will be in "My House". Barbara's Casa, the home of the single woman, my home alone!

I have looked at many houses and almost bought a few; but something always came up that made it not quite the right thing to do at the time. All that changed on Sunday while Roberta and I were looking through the Real Estate adds (while eating a lovely breakfast prepared by niece, Amy). and I spotted this lovely place. The price was a bit more then I wanted to pay; isn't it Always, but not that bad. I'm slow to move on new ideas; but after I showed a couple of adds to Roberta and Bruce the next thing I knew Roberta and I were in the car and on our way to take a look.

First, we stopped by some Ok places and thought they might be OK. Then we dropped by some new apartments, (remember the Fenton girls cover more space in a short distance then anyone you'll ever meet). I even found an apartment that was pretty good, so we called Bruce to come see and give us his thoughts on it. He said, "not bad at all". I even put a deposit down on it, that's how much we liked it. Then off to the last one, the one I liked the most of all and had saved till last. Reminds me of when I was younger and saved the best till last...

We arrived at my about to be New Home and everyone was in agreement that it "looked good". It looked like us! It looked like a bit of New England in the middle of Texas and unless you are a Yankee from Boston, living in the heart of Texas, that doesn't mean a whole lot. It sure did to us! Red brick and white trim...real wood windows, tall ceilings, and best of all beautiful woodwork and a fireplace.. A home not just a house. A place where Barbara felt just plain wonderful.

Gone was that old feeling I've had the last couple of years, "could I stay here alone", "would I be afraid", "would I be lonely"?...I felt none of that. It was gone...I felt at home...I loved it so much I was afraid to let anyone know! In fact I Didn't!

Well, I did Such a good job of hiding my true feelings that Roberta asked me to come look at something in the garage.. Fool that I can be sometimes, I went to see what she wanted. Well , what she wanted was to know if I Liked The Place! It seems Bruce loved it and she loved it and I of course in the meantime I was walking around saying things like, "that's nice, and a lot of hummmm's so they had no idea What I thought. We laughed and I told her I was doing the old buyer thing and didn't want the agent to get too excited. I also shared with her that "I loved it". What a good buyer I am.. Graduate of the school of, "some husband from long ago" that told me I was silly for telling an agent once, " that I didn't have to go inside the house, I just wanted to buy it"! We did buy that house and I always loved it, and I even loved the inside!

I went today and made an offer and got all my legal work done and the loan approved. All the things that husbands always do; or at least in my case did. Alas, I am a big girl now. A full grown woman. A woman of the nineties.

Barbara
Editor, Women's Health at OBGYN.net
Barbara.Nesbitt@obgyn.net

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