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Miscarriage: Women Sharing from the Heart -- the pioneering and definitive book, based on the most extensive research known to date, carrying compassion and support from 100 women.
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An brief excerpt from Miscarriage...
"A woman who is pregnant exists in a deep and intimate state of symbiosis with the baby in her womb. They are fused. Her baby is, quite literally, a part of her mentally, physically, and emotionally. This point is crucial toward understanding a woman who has miscarried.
A woman's experience of her baby moving within her womb marks the origin of a very long process of separating their identities. When the mother first becomes aware of her baby moving within her, she begins the process of realizing that her baby is a separate human being. Miscarriage usually occurs before 12 weeks. Since the average woman does not consciously feel movement before 16 to 20 weeks, miscarriage nearly always occurs before the lengthy emotional separation process has even begun. So the woman experiences the death of her own flesh and blood, a part of her own self. This phenomenon, which feels bizarre to her, is impossible for many to understand, isolating her further:
'That baby had been a part of me. We were still a package. When it was taken from me at the D&C, I felt that I was taken with it.'"